In this episode you will hear about how the outer world can affect the inner world at all times. I was inspired to talk about this because I had this sentence in my head for some years now, ‘the outer world is a reflection of your inner world’.
Right before doing the episode I search for this sentence on the internet and funny enough (to me) it was a sentence I read in one of the first self development books that I read some years ago called, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Ecker.
It is sort of funny to me because of how some things that you read or you hear many years ago can stay inside and we may not even remember where they came from.. Part of the Why of The Better Self Show is to bring you these sort of ideas that you hear and you may remember for sometime after…
The outer world
There is a tendency in thinking on the outer world all the time. Weather, politics, economics, neighbors… It may be easier than actually sharing the things that we have inside. The good thing about this is that sometimes the ‘outer’ things can bring you insights about your ‘inside’.
I can give you a personal example. I am from Gran Canaria, one of the Canary Islands. There when I was on the late teens I realized that before going to study in the USA I found myself complaining all the time about the island.. The island sucks, it is small, there is not much going on here, always the same people, always the same landscape and so on…
With time I discovered that these sort of thoughts happened to a lot of people, and to my surprise they still do nowadays. But the most crazy thing to me it was that when I traveled to the States or to other places I found people with the same sort of thoughts. In that time I discovered the sentence, “wherever you go there you are”.
What I learned is that life doesn’t suck because of the place you live in. Live sucks independently of where you live. Your inner world is a reflection of the outer world. In this case if you see the place you live in as a bad place, and complain a lot about it.. how is your inside looking then?
Complaining about others
Complaining is engrained in our everyday lives, and if you wish I can talk about the neuroscience behind complaining on another episode, just let me know. In the episode I share a personal story where I found myself complaining about a friend’s behavior and how I found that whatever I was complaining about I had it in my inner self.
Whenever you are complaining about another person or place, try to see how much of that complain is reflected upon your inner self
Another example. You may have heard me in the show complaining about the guru’s of the internet, the happy hippie life coaches or the online marketing experts of the internet. Yes I am no saint here, I may just know that I know nothing.
In the end I may complain about these people because I am jealous or I admire the business they have built for their own, and I deeply wish that I can also do the same with this project. In any complain about the outside try to look at what’s inside.
Coaching examples of the outer world as inner world
In coaching I often do an very famous exercise that is used in many disciplines that I call ‘the empty chair’. It consists of having the client talk about his or her goal on a chair. After describing what is going on then you have that person stand behind the chair and describe what he observes in the person who was sharing before (himself). It is like looking at the inside from the outside.
To go a bit deeper. There is a variation of this exercise where you also bring other people and mentors. So that person moves around different positions ‘imagining’ what one of his mentors would say to him when in reality the mentor is being himself. It is hard to explain but if you have tried this exercise you may know better what I mean, and if you want to try then get in touch with me.
Apply it to your daily life
Everything is part of our live whether it comes from the outside or from the inside. And the outer world can perfectly be a reflection of the inner world. To apply this concept to your life what I do in mine is:
- Observe when you find complaining about someone, and think what’s in that complain that can tell you something about yourself?
- Look at your life right now. How is your room? Your kitchen? Your close relations? In what state are you right now? Think then how the inside is reflecting on the outside or viceversa
So that is it! Thank you so much one more time for being there, for listening to the episode, for you feedback, comments, question, likes.. And remember that you can support the show to help me to keep going with this beautiful project that I hope that it brings you value in any shape or form.
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